最后的话

I am lucky that I met this film during my lost and dark days. She told me that your life has just begun, you have a lot of things to do. So we all should not live our every day in a comfortable way. Make it meaningful. Sometimes, we also could think about what last words you want to leave the world.

inspiring lines:

1. so i hear you kids are risk. all kids are risk, you know. show me a kid who is no risk and i’d show you a kid who would be a nobody. taking risks is what life is all about. i took a risk, and i went to college. And in my day, no man want to marry woman who was educated, no man wanted to marry woman who worked, no man wanted a woman he worked for. but my favorite was no man wanted to marry a woman in bussiness. so those are the risk i am willing to take.

why? why you take those risks?

because there is no way i will NOT leave up my protential, so you have to ask your self these question———are you willing to take your risks to do something stupid, or are you willing to take your risks to do something great?

2.you think Sunday my father may show up and trying to get food with me?

i don’ t know, is that what you want? (pause) i get it, you want it, but you wish you didn’t.

yeah~i guess so.

i get it. my mom left home when i was younger than you.

have you seen her since?

nope.

i haven’t seen my dad either.

sucks right?

(thinking...)his lost, yeah, his lost. i am awesome.

yeah, you ARE awesome.

i know, you are awesome, too.

you think so,you think i am awesome?

you know what i think?

what?

FUCK THEM ALL.

thoughts：

shitty原生家庭给我们的通病，就是让我们有被抛弃感，并且认为家人抛弃是自己的问题，然后是无法抗拒的自毁倾向或是不断自我怀疑，无法建立应有的自信。so you know what? his lost, i am awesome. FUCK them all.

女孩，要自信，be something, live you life，别怕失败。

她独立又个性，她直率又真实，她机智又自信。无论做任何事她都会遵循自己内心的想法，因为她始终坚信自己的想法是最好的。即使世人全都厌恶她否定她，她也不会改变自己的生活方式。她喜欢自己操控自己的一生，她敢于尝试和冒险，她总会努力去做自己认为有意义的事情。我羡慕她随心所欲，潇洒自在地度过一生，我敬重她81岁仍然对生活充满追求。

<please dont have a nice day.

Have a day that matters.

Have a day that’s true.

Have a day that’s direct.

Have a day that’s honest.

A nice day you’ll be miserable.

As you’re doing your housework, your homework, your driving work, your playing work, your working work.

Have a day that means something.

Try to make this time mean something.>

女版《遗愿清单》从女性视觉讲诉了富婆人生最后的反思，诠释了某些人关于生活意义的理解。什么叫活过？也许有人需要通过《饭祷爱》般的自我发掘；也许也有人会像阿曼达在剧中被激发而顿悟。无论如何，时间不会停止，生命不可逆，但世界仍旧是生生不息。作为一部被定义为喜剧的影片，虽然话题沉重，却从头至尾洋溢着温情。淡淡的叙事手法，让人仿佛看见时光从身边缓缓的流过。没有无助，只有从容不迫。

7.5。治愈系，励志系。又看哭了。没错，纪念一个人的最好方式，或许就是照着ta的样子生活，照着ta的精神生活：“Please don't have a nice day. Have a day that matters. Have a day that's true. Have a day that's direct. Have a day that's honest. A nice day? Mm-mmm, you'll be miserable. Have a day that means something.” 开场二三十分钟，笑坏了，什么样的bitch，什么样的恶魔老奶奶呀，掌控癖，完美派，连自己的讣告都要提前控制。Harriet的妇科医生控诉她说：“她总是否定我的诊断，问题是她大多数时候还是对的，我还得还她医疗费。”社区牧师对她气得无语：“我恨她，我恨她，我恨她，so much。”还有人说她简直就是“human black cloud”，人形乌云，走到哪里，风暴就扫到哪里 老奶奶是很讨人厌，但她reasonable，是个讲理的人，摊手，有什么办法呢，她总是对的，基本上就没有不对的时候。看到后面，你会对老奶奶的一生肃然起敬，就像Anne说的，我的人生再怎样，都不会比她更有味道、更精彩 那么问题来了，老话说，路遥知马力，日久见人心，老奶奶这样的人，话糙理不糙，真话总会赢得真心的，盖棺论定的时候，大多数人（家人，同事，邻里）不可能不说她“好话”，这个就是片子先天人设出了问题——可以理解，不这么处理，也就没有开场二三十分钟那些的精彩表演和台词了 老奶奶这种性格，哎，老实话，如果同她长期处在一片屋檐下，没有人能survive。最好的态度是“敬而远之”，就是字面意思，站得远远地尊敬她、学习她，靠近危险！ Harriet Lauler的扮演者Shirley MacLaine，1934年生人，老演员了，IMDb有篇评论说得好，这个片子也可以看作雪莉•麦克雷恩本人“shape the legacy”的一部分 也许我们都该想想自己的墓志铭怎么写，不要陶渊明那种超然脱俗的，要现实主义，认真过每一天，想想自己能够留下什么样的legacy